[A MUST READ] ‘Dear Ladies, Do Not Date Or Marry A Broke Guy’ – Nigerian Woman Cries Out

Hello Guys,

Hope you all doing well? May God bless everyone this week 

A Nigerian lady posted what you are about to read on the internet and it has been seriously trending 

We urge everyone to take time to read it and drop your opinion.

See What She Wrote Below:

Over the years, there has been this notion that broke guys should not be in relationship and I think this is true.

There is no romance without finance. This has been a cliche that has been used by the female folk for quite a while and in all sincerity, it is the truth. Every relationship, be it marriage or courtship or boy/girl romance needs money to drive those exciting moments that makes the relationship memorable.

Being broke is relative. It means different things to different people. There is no universal benchmark to ascertain a certain level of financial freedom that can be classified as being financially stable. For instance, lady A can decide to marry a guy who earns 100k, and to her, that guy is financially stable while lady B can decide to have nothing to do with a guy who earns less than 500k per month.

That said, I think it is only right for girls to demand financial stability from their partners before dating or marriage. Everyone has priorities and relationship needs and I think it is not wise to date anyone (male or female) who has money issues. That is not to say all broke guys should be curved. There are some guys who are ambitious and hardworking but they are yet to achieve that financial freedom. To this group of guys, ladies should learn be discerning enough to know whether to stick to them because you don’t want to end up with a permanent liability as a husband.

As a woman it’s very difficult to see your children struggling to survive while their mates go to the best schools and wear the best clothes.

Truth is that you as a female might find it difficult to do some very tasking jobs when you get pregnant or while you are nursing not to mention the fact that many companies discriminate against married women with children because they believe these women would place their children over their jobs and cause setbacks.

In times like that, the task of hustling and being breadwinner should already be covered by the guy to avoid the family going into financial crises

Ladies, you know how the average Nigerian man will not see it as his duty to go shopping in the market to buy household items, they won’t see it as their duty to cook for the family or do daily house cleaning so the job falls on you as a woman in majority of cases, do not go about taking losses and doing glorified housemaid and baby making machine and sex slave for a guy who you will still go out daily to hustle money and feed while he bosses you around as the head of house and demands submission from you.

So, dont date or marry any guy who sees you as key to financial freedom or stability. In a relationship, both parties are meant to benefit equally.

Yes, the woman should compliment her man financially but in Nigerian societies, it’s not your primary responsibility to provide.

Look for a capable guy that can do it before getting married to avoid birthing kids that will come to this world and suffer.

Gracias.